Dogs

Dogs

And Why They Are THE Best Companions

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I love all animals. They can be cute, funny, annoying, or all three, but the thing is that they are always honest. There’s none of this back stabbing and talking behind the others’ backs. They simply find a way to exist with each other.

I have always had pets. I can’t remember a time… in fact, I am certain that there has never been one, when I have not had an animal of some kind as a companion.

Dogs have always been there, and as far as I am concerned, my house would not be a home without one. They give such unconditional love, and are always there, waiting for a kind word and a bit of a back scratch. I really cannot even comprehend the people who choose to deliberately hurt them. In fact, I believe that there is a special place reserved for them in the fires of hell, but that is a topic for another day.

I adopted my dog from a rescue about seven years ago. She is a chihuahua, Yorkshire Terrier cross, who has enormous ears, a tiny frame and a personality to match the ears. She also seems to think that she’s a German Shepherd.

She is my world. I love her to pieces, and she has gotten me through some truly dreadful experiences. She is so completely tuned in to me, that she will wake up from a dead sleep if I am crying and come over to comfort me.

When I am having a bad time with my depression, she just comes and curls up in my arms. She gives me kisses to try and make me feel better and has a tendency to try and lick away any tears.

She knows when I am anxious and comes to me, and has, on several occasions, prevented me from being hurt.

She is so tuned in to me that when I have a nightmare, she will lick me and paw at me until she has woken me up. Then, she will snuggle with me, and generally, stay awake to make sure that I am okay.

Now, some of you reading this might say that I’m crazy, and maybe I am, but I’m just telling you how it is for me.

I do know one thing for sure; without her, I would be completely lost.


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Li Carter is a writer, artist and crafter. She lives in South Wales, UK, with her family, and five rescue dogs. She’s on Twitter @rbcreativeli , Facebook: Rainbow Butterfly Creative, and Instagram @rainbowbutterflycreative and is the author of My Only True Friend: The Beginning. She is currently working on a new series titled The QuickSilver Chronicles. She is the original Rainbow Butterfly, and wants to fill an ever darkening world with a little bit of beauty and creativity.

She Said

She Said

A Poem

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She said that I was stupid,
She said she didn’t care.
She said that I was on my own,
That I wasn’t self aware.

She said that she loved me,
She said that she knew,
She made me tell all my secrets,
All my tales of woe.

Then one day she left me,
She just turned and walked away.
She didn’t even look back,
On that dark, dark day…


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Li Carter is a writer, artist and crafter. She lives in South Wales, UK, with her family, and five rescue dogs. She’s on Twitter @rbcreativeli , Facebook: Rainbow Butterfly Creative, and Instagram @rainbowbutterflycreative and is the author of My Only True Friend: The Beginning. She is currently working on a new series titled The QuickSilver Chronicles. She is the original Rainbow Butterfly, and wants to fill an ever darkening world with a little bit of beauty and creativity.

Friendship

Friendship

The Truth

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A lot of the time, we talk about friends, but sometimes I wonder if we actually know what the word really means, or if we have lost the concept of friendship. I have seven really close friends that I probably speak to more than once a week. These are the people that I know I can trust, and that I know have my back, no matter what.

The thing is that nowadays, what with social medias, people have lists of so-called ‘friends’, which are more like acquaintances. I know people whose friends lists on facebook are numbered in the thousands, and I honestly wonder how many of those people they actually *know*…

I mean, like really know. I’m as guilty as anyone. I have a large number (although, admittedly, not in the thousands) of friends on my list, and I’ll be honest, there are very few of them that I talk to on a regular basis. The thing is, I’m actually okay with that. I’ve stopped worrying about the number of friends I have; and am now more concerned with the quality of the friendships. I’m not saying that I want to become disconnected, but at the same time, I‘m not interested in acquiring a whole heap of new friends or followers, just for the ability to say that I have such and such number on my list.

Recently, I have been sad to have lost a couple of people, who I thought were good friends. I’ll be honest, it still hurts, but I’ve come to terms with it and accepted that this is just how things are going to be from now on.

One of these friends ghosted me when I told them about something that was really distressing to me. The other, a person in authority, as well as what I thought of as a good friend, simply didn’t take me seriously. I was left feeling hurt, and if I’m honest, betrayed.

But I digress. I’ve accepted that situation for what it is, and I’ll just have to live with it, but what I’m trying to say is that we should be really careful to choose our friends wisely. The thing is that friends can let us down, and probably will do at one point or another, because we are, none of us, perfect.

We really need to make sure that the people that we are talking to are people that genuinely have our best interests at heart. I know that my inner circle…. My seven people, have my best interests at heart. They always look out for me, and make sure that I am okay. This is not to say that they won’t call me out on things if I’m behaving in the wrong way, but even this, is done and said in love, and I always feel loved and supported.

The thing is that sometimes, friendships will simply run their course, and I guess that’s what happened to the two that I have recently lost. I really hope that this is the case, rather than that they never really were my friends in the first place.

I truly hope that’s the case. Either way, I am okay with it. It’s taken me a while, and it does still hurt, especially when I see these people, but at the same time, I have decided to have more respect for myself than to go on fighting for a relationship that clearly I am the only one to care about.

So, I want to encourage you to find your seven. Find those people, who make your life better, just by being in it. Find those people who will love and support and protect you. Those people who will laugh when you’re being goofy, and will tell you when you’re being an idiot.

Find your seven, and your life will be all the richer for it.


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Li Carter is a writer, artist and crafter. She lives in South Wales, UK, with her family, and five rescue dogs. She’s on Twitter @rbcreativeli , Facebook: Rainbow Butterfly Creative, and Instagram @rainbowbutterflycreative and is the author of My Only True Friend: The Beginning. She is currently working on a new series titled The QuickSilver Chronicles. She is the original Rainbow Butterfly, and wants to fill an ever darkening world with a little bit of beauty and creativity.

Valentines Day

Valentines Day

A Promise To My First Love

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If you’re looking for an overly soppy, lovey dovey type of post, then I suggest that you look elsewhere, because that’s not what this is.

I don’t like Valentines day. As a (quite happily) single person, I don’t have a significant other to buy me cards, and flowers and chocolates. I don’t mind. I actually don’t need them.

The thing is, Valentines has been built up into this massive hype, over something which, in the grand scheme of things, is not important at all. I feel it has become something of a reminder to couples to do something that they should be doing throughout the year anyway. We shouldn’t need a special day to love on those who are important to us.

And don’t get me started on school kids (particularly in primary schools) and how they have to take valentines in for the whole class — I may sound like grumpy cat, but, JUST… NO! Let kids be kids! There’s plenty of time for Valentines when they’re a little bit older!

But, I digress.

I don’t do Valentines normally, and I read a blog post about self care this Valentine’s day, and it suggested sending one to yourself, and while I have no intention of doing that, it did give me an idea.

Rather than sending a Valentine to myself, I am going to start a year long project. This will be my version of a Valentine, and I am sending it, not to a person, but to my first love…

WRITING

I want to really dig down into my writing this year. I plan to carry a notebook with me at all times, and to record everything I think of in it… quotes, thoughts, ideas… every single little thing.

I used to do this all the time, but as I got older, the worries about what people might think of me crept in, but the thing I’ve realised is that people will think what they’re going to think, and they’re going to do that whether I’m ‘acting normal’ or not. The fact of the matter is that I am a freak. I have known this from a very young age, and I am NOT ashamed of that fact, so for this next year, I will let my ‘freak’ flag fly, and I will have a notebook with me at all times, and you know what? If I think of something, or hear something interesting, I am going to record it in that notebook. I am going to hide my life within its pages, and I am not going to worry about people thinking that I’m strange, because in reality, they already do anyway.


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Li Carter is a writer, artist and crafter. She lives in South Wales, UK, with her family, and five rescue dogs. She’s on Twitter @rbcreativeli , Facebook: Rainbow Butterfly Creative, and Instagram @rainbowbutterflycreative and is the author of My Only True Friend: The Beginning. She is currently working on a new series titled The QuickSilver Chronicles. She is the original Rainbow Butterfly, and wants to fill an ever darkening world with a little bit of beauty and creativity.