Thoughts Upon Entering The Darkness Within The Disordered Mind And The Beliefs That Control It
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People think they know what it means to be depressed. What it means to have OCD…
They have no clue.
OCD isn’t about odd obsessions. Or only liking even numbers.
OCD is hell.
It’s being stuck in a neverending loop, where if you don’t do something, you have to live with a constant niggling, crippling doubt, and the only way to get rid of it is to do that thing over and over and over again, until it feels ‘just right’.
You hate yourself so much, and the more you have to do it, the more you hate yourself, the more you beat yourself up.
It’s a sickening, vicious circle that you have no chance of breaking.
Is that how people feel when they joke about OCD?? Is it?
They think it’s all just fun and games; that being a ‘little bit ocd’ is joke.
It never has been!
It never will be.
They don’t have a clue what it’s like for me. How long it takes me to do things… To get ready in the morning. To make food. To even leave the house.
If they knew. If only they knew, maybe they’d be a little less quick to joke!
It takes me over an hour to get to bed each night, because of my routines. I have to go to the bathroom over twenty times, just to make sure.
I have to perform rituals, and if I do them wrong, I have to start all over again.
I have to wash my hands over and over again; scrubbing them, and scalding them with boiling hot water, just to make sure that they’re clean.
I try to fight it, but then I worry. What if? It’s THE OCD question. What if I don’t do this? What if [insert terrible thing here] happens because I haven’t done this? What if? What if? What if?
Every time I do anything I have to think of the consequences. The results. Everything. EVERYTHING has to be pre organised and planned.
I can’t be spontaneous, because, what if something goes wrong. What if I do something unexpected and something terrible happens. What would I do then?
No one understands. People laugh at my little oddities, but they don’t get it. They don’t really see how important it is, and they never will, because they don’t live within my disordered brain.
I am not ‘a little bit OCD’. I have fully blown OCD, and it’s HELL! It is not a quirk. It is a living nightmare that I never wake up from.
It is not a joke, so please, don’t treat it like one…
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Li Carter is a writer, artist and crafter. She lives in South Wales, UK, with her family, and five rescue dogs. She’s on Twitter @rbcreativeli , Facebook: Rainbow Butterfly Creative, and Instagram @rainbowbutterflycreative and is the author of My Only True Friend: The Beginning. She is currently working on a new series titled The QuickSilver Chronicles. She is the original Rainbow Butterfly, and wants to fill an ever darkening world with a little bit of beauty and creativity.