You Should Be Setting Goals

And Why They Need To Be Realistic

I love goals. I love setting them, and I love reaching, and achieving them. There is no better feeling than knowing that you’ve worked towards something and that you can now see the proof of your labour.

The problem I have with my goals, is that I tend to way over reach on what I can actually achieve. I have a tendency to try and spread myself way too thin, and this proves to be a stumbling block for me.

Lately, I have had to admit that I just can’t carry on setting goals that mean that I’m basically setting myself up to fail with, because, let’s face it, there is also no worse feeling than knowing that you’ve failed to meet a goal.

So, where do I go from here?

I simply need to work out which goals are achievable, and which ones aren’t, and, more important than that, I need to decide to let those ones go, because all they’re doing in the long run, is hurting me.

I think the first big step for me here, was to admit that I am not superhuman, no matter what my brain would have me believe.

There are days when I just don’t feel up to doing anything at all, except curling up in a ball and reading a good book (see my previous post). There are days when life just gets in the way, and then, there are the good days; the days when everything seems to go right, and I can reach all of the goals that I set for myself.

The thing is, that up until recently, I thought that I had to push myself to do everything, regardless of what any given day might bring. I am now learning that this just isn’t the case.

The thing with goals, is that they are meant to set us up to succeed.

Yes, they are also meant to push us, but at the end of the day, a small goal reached, is better than a huge goal spectacularly missed.

So, what steps am I taking now, to ensure that I meet my goals?

The answer is simple:

1. Set small, teeny tiny, achievable goals.

2. Set sensible deadlines.

3. Accept that sometimes, things change.

4. Adjust goals accordingly.

5. If necessary, break up a large goal into several smaller ones.

This is a practice that I am still working on, and still learning, but it is something that I am determined to reach and succeed at.

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Li Carter is a writer, artist and crafter. She lives in South Wales, UK, with her family, and five rescue dogs. She’s on Twitter @rbcreativeli , Facebook: Rainbow Butterfly Creative, and Instagram @rainbowbutterflycreative and is the author of My Only True Friend: The Beginning. She is currently working on a new series titled The QuickSilver Chronicles. She is the original Rainbow Butterfly, and wants to fill an ever darkening world with a little bit of beauty and creativity.


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